How many times does it need to be said? It was designed this way.
The industrialised maternity system isn’t set up to help women, it’s here to control.
The thing we can do as birth workers is get comfortable with the idea that it can’t be fixed.
There’s no way to fix it. They do what they want, implement what they want, restrict how they want, and everyone knows you will only avoid what they serve up if you are lucky.
Planning and learning can help, but you are still relying on things to line up just so, and we should stop trying to convince women otherwise.
Women are smart, they can choose for themselves, when they know the reality of what their decision-making might mean.
If you want to start working with women in a different way, in responsibility, and with integrity, reach out to me to see what sort of conversations you need to be having to help women to see the truth of what is available to them.